Updated: Mar 15

How would you end this sentence? "It would be nice if.."

I want you to take a pause right now and really think about what it is you want for yourself. Be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking about what you don't want.

If you want to say something like, "It would be nice if I wasn't stressed all the time," try replacing with, "It would be nice if I felt relaxed."

"One's destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things." - Henry Miller

In order to catch yourself in the negativity trap, you have to be aware of your thoughts in general. In other words, where are you right now? What kind of thoughts are circling around in that big brain of yours? What are you feeling?

Throughout my entire pregnancy (as I write this, I am due to deliver next week), I have been hyper-aware of my mindset. I have actively caught myself when slipping back into my old control-freak ways.

You see, I am a recovering perfectionist and over these last several years have been re-learning how to allow instead of micromanage every aspect of my life. It's a work in progress...

This particular week, I found myself really harping on my to-do list of things I want to finish before my 2nd son is born so that I can relax and enjoy my time with him without feeling pressure to do all the things.

The self-limiting thoughts came reeling in... "In order to be able to do that, I need to do this first." The reality is, I don't. I don't need to get anything at all "done" so that I can be fully present and enjoy my time with him when he arrives. I can do that no matter what.

So, clearly I know these things. Why do I keep falling into the trap?

One of the reasons is that we hold our thoughts, beliefs, expectations, desires - all of the mental aspects of ourselves - within our energy field. When certain emotions are triggered, these thoughts become a part of our experience.

Can this be healed? You're damn right it can! Will it happen immediately? Probably not... The longer you've been holding onto these beliefs, the more practice and consistency it will take to re-wire your way of thinking.

Trust me, it's worth the time and effort.

What it takes is learning skills and integrating them into your routine to peel back the layers and get to the root of that thought. This helps to pave the way for new, healthier and more soul-aligned thoughts and emotions to take their place.

One of my most used (and regularly taught) tools is the practice of energy clearing. Fill out the form below if you'd like a free copy of a simple daily practice.

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Your body is so much more than what meets the eye. You have these "invisible" spaces within and around your physical body that hold energy. These energetic bodies essentially create your entire life experience.

To begin, let’s recognize that we (and everything else in the world) are made of energy. From atoms to cells and beyond, this energy is expressed in patterns which take the form of our physical bodies.

The subtle energies are those which we can’t see visually or under a microscope, including the biomagnetic (or auric) field, chakras, and meridians. They contain information that is expressed through our thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

The Human Energy Field

You're probably no stranger to the term "aura", which also goes by other names: biomagnetic field, electromagnetic field, auric field, etc.

This energetic field that surrounds you can actually be measured by modern equipment with a specific type of photograph - see image above.

The layers of the human energy field can be broken down into different layers, each affecting different parts of ourselves. For example, it conveys information about events taking place inside of your body; therefore, vitally linked to your internal health.

Each of the layers work together systematically and affect not only your health, but your complete life experience.

The 4 main fields I work with in an Integrated Energy Therapy (IET) session are the:

  • Physical Layer: Extends up to 1 foot from the physical body, tied to somatic sensations, injury, trauma, & disease.

  • Emotional Layer: Extends 1-2 feet from the physical body, tied to feelings and emotions, emotional trauma.

  • Mental Layer: Extends 2-3 feet from the physical body, tied to thoughts, ideas, beliefs; negative and limiting beliefs.

  • Spiritual Layer: Extends 3-5 feet from the physical body, tied to karmic soul lessons, & past-life trauma.

The Physical + Emotional Connection

The physical layer is the 1st layer and emotional layer is the 2nd layer of your bioenergetic field. The physical layer contains the blueprint of all of your physical body. It essentially acts as a conduit between the functions of your physical body and higher functions of your emotional layer.

Think of it as the bridge between your body and your emotions. A healthy body is more resistant to low vibration emotions; therefore, take care of your physical body to help support your emotional well-being.

The relationship between your physical and emotional energy bodies is why you can't bypass your body's foundational needs when you're trying to get to a place of positive (or high vibration) emotions.

The caveat is that when you're unhappy and feel shitty emotionally/mentally, the last thing you're motivated to do is take care of your physical body.

Make it a practice to check in with yourself on a daily basis (or better yet, throughout the day) to figure out what your body needs and is asking for at this time.

You may need to: ✔️ Drink a glass of water

✔️ Eat something that both nourishes and satisfies you

✔️ Take a nap or go to bed early

✔️ Move your body - Research actually shows that if you can get in at least 10 minutes of physical activity you'll experience a significant positive shift in your mood.

Emotions can root down from your energy field and into your physical body. This affects organs, muscles, meridians, chakras, and other aspects of your body.

If not processed and released from your energy field, low vibration emotions (like fear, anger, resentment, depression, etc.) can cause physical pain and dis-ease.

Here are some examples of where emotions can be stored in your body:

  • Anger → Liver and gallbladder

  • Shame → Throat and lungs

  • Fear → Kidneys & hips, lower back

  • Stress → Adrenals and stomach

Bottom line - energy is meant to be released (see article on energetic blockages)! Setting up a free intention setting call is a great start if you're in need of guidance and support in getting the emotional root of your physical pain or dis-ease. Click here to schedule a 15-minute call.

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As the Greek philosopher, Heraclitus, said, "The only constant in life is change." So why do so many people fear change?

Change can mean diving deep into the unknown. It can be intimidating and feel scary. Plus, if you are already an anxious person, or already have a lot of moving parts in your life, change can be very overwhelming.

While all of the above are true, back to what Heraclitus said, it's an inevitable part of our lives. Not only are we guaranteed to experience change, but it's actually critical for us to move through resistance in our lives, and into a state of flow (see last week's article, Finding Your Flow).

The definition of insanity is repeating the same action over and over again and expecting a different result, right?

So, when you feel stuck, naturally something needs to change in order for you to move forward. To do this, you need to bring awareness to those actions that are on repeat and make a choice on where you want to make an adjustment to your life.

Keep in mind that almost all of your actions are based on your subconscious thoughts and beliefs. We have to figure out which of those you have outgrown and are no longer aligned to your wants and desires, then look at the next logical step to move in a different direction.

Let's take your job as an example. Imagine you're working at a job that maybe a few years ago was a good fit and fulfilled the need of a steady paycheck, but over the years the circumstances have changed. Maybe you don't care for your boss or co-workers, you're not being compensated fairly, or you just don't find joy in the job itself -- but for some reason you stay in this job way longer than you should.

Why? Because you're repeating patterns of the subconscious. In some ways, working at this company, doing this job, interacting with these people everyday have all become a part of your narrative. When you can take a step back and look at the big picture, you can really see how out of alignment staying at this job truly is.

What's next? The scary part. Change.

Your mind might jump to a million places from here -- what will I do? What if I don't make as much money as I do at this job? I feel bad leaving my boss/co-workers. What if at the next job I'm just as miserable? The job market is terrible, what would I even do next?

Forget it! This is familiar, I am just going to stay here.

And the cycle repeats.

How can you embrace the change?

  1. Self-Monitoring. First, just get comfortable with bringing awareness to your habits. This in itself is a great way to begin to change the way you think, which will naturally affect your emotions and behaviors.

  2. Reflection. Think about what you truly want. Question your thoughts, behaviors, and actions. Go back to last week's article, Finding Your Flow, for some more tips on this.

  3. Small Changes. Instead of making big, drastic changes (like quitting your job), start small. What's the next logical step you can take that doesn't feel overwhelming? In the example above, that might mean journaling about your dream job, starting a job search, or even brushing up your resume.

Not very many people can do this alone -- myself included! I am here to hold space for you as you learn how to uncover and work with these hidden aspects of yourself. Click here to schedule a free call so we can help get you on the right path!

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