Don't "brightside" me!

Are you familiar with the term "brightsiding"? It's kind of like gaslighting.


It's when a perfectly nice and well-meaning attempt to offer you comfort turns out to actually be kind of toxic. It's when you're going through some shit and someone says something to you like, "it could be worse, just look on the bright side!"

Has this happened to you before? How does it make you feel? Honestly, for me, it kind of makes me want to punch that person in the face. In reality, Positive Patsy, is just at a higher vibrational frequency and at the moment she has access to gratitude and those higher vibration emotions.


However, depending on what you're going through, and where you're currently at, that gratitude just might not be accessible to you right now.

Why it's so hard.

Our thoughts are very powerful. They are what trigger the emotional response, which then leads to a physical response.


So, yes, would it serve you to adopt a more positive mindset about your situation? Absolutely, BUT that doesn't mean it's the next logical step for you right now.


Let's say you're in a GREAT mood, maybe you got a raise, maybe you got a little action, I don't know, whatever, you're feeling good. Then all of a sudden, oops! You spill a glass of water all over the floor. Your response might be like, "It's ok, it's just water, no worries. You know what, I needed to wash the floor anyway! Thanks, Universe!"

But on any other given day, maybe you lost your job, or had to put your dog down, or you're just really upset with how things are in your life right now. You spill that same glass of water in the same spot, on the same dirty floor and, "Goddamn it! Are you serious? Of course this would happen to me right now. I don't have time for this. Who even left this water here? GAHH."

In Scenario A, gratitude was accessible because you were already in a higher vibrational state. In an otherwise shitty situation, like in Scenario B, if you told me to find gratitude in that moment, you'd likely find a foot up your ass.

Now, back to the good intentions of Positive Patsy. She is right about something; staying in those negative, low-vibration emotions is going to eventually manifest in your reality in a way that does not serve your Highest good.


The physical consequences of chronic low vibrational emotions manifest into those mystery illnesses that your doctor can't diagnose, or make you so anxious you can't leave your house. Or so depressed you can't even do the simplest thing that will make you happy right now.

So, yeah, we do want to figure out how we can feel better, BUT we have to consider how to do this based on where we're at now.


How to shift your low vibrational state.

Like I already mentioned, sometimes gratitude or looking on the bright side isn't available, or you try, but it just feels forced and not authentic.


What we do here is reach for the next best thing to what we're feeling right NOW, and that is how you move forward in a way that flows more naturally for you.


I'm going to go be going into stuff like this in a lot more detail in my new program that's going to be launching in January, but for right now I'm going to keep it simple so you have an action step you can take right now.

If you're not already familiar with this concept, essentially every emotion has a different vibration, and there is pretty much a spectrum.

  • Step 1 - Where are you at right now?

  • Step 2 - What is the next best thing that is available for you right now?

  • Step 3 - What is the easiest, most logical thing that you can do right now to support and nurture yourself?

I know it sounds crazy, like, "Lady, are you really telling me to feel 'jealousy' and that's going to help me get out of 'depression'?"


Yup, it is going to get you a step in that direction because otherwise where are you going? You'll either stay where you are, or you're going to find out if it could get any worse.

So let's start taking those little steps. Recognize that on some level, you know it's going to be ok - some way, some how, at some point - but you have to give yourself the permission and space to elevate.

If you're interested in support with what you're currently working through, schedule a consultation.

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