How to Manage Your Expectations

Updated: Feb 14

Coming up on the end of the year here, I want to talk about expectations. Every year around this time there is a lot of hype around New Year's resolutions and making plans for the year ahead.

After a year like 2020, now more than ever you might be hoping and waiting for something "better".

Learning how to manage your expectations can help you bring them into alignment with your highest good - so they become another tool rather than a pain point.

The most common question I get around the topic of expectations is: "Is it better to have low expectations, high expectations, or NO expectations?"

Having your expectations is one thing, but what you do with them is another. Let me explain...

First, let's define expectations.

Essentially, your expectations are what you are anticipating from the future. They're tied in to your subconscious beliefs, such as I have to work hard and suffer to make a decent living, therefore I expect my job to be grueling.

How you anticipate your life will play out has a profound effect on your energy, emotional state, and consequently on your physical well-being.

The thing is, we have expectations for just about everything in our lives — our partners, relationships, work, and so much more. These anticipated outcomes influence our reactions and responses to situations.

Pause and take a moment to think about what expectations you have around these things.

  • Do you expect work to be boring and suck?

  • Do you expect to be so busy with the things that have to get done that you won't have time for the things you want to do?

  • Do you expect your partner to disappoint you? Your kid to disobey you?

  • Your coffee to spill on you on your way out the door because, "Of course that would happen to me."

The cool thing about expectations is that you have a choice and complete control over them, BUT you have to choose to take it.